DEAR ABBY: I misplaced my husband of 20 years a bit of over two years in the past. Final 12 months, I moved to a different state to be near household. I rented an condo, and my finest good friend moved with me.
Shortly after, I met a a lot youthful man. He was instantly occupied with me. He’s candy, sort and really good-looking. It took me months to understand that I’m additionally occupied with him.
We started spending time collectively, together with bed room enjoyable. He has informed me at the very least twice he loves me, and I informed him the identical. His demeanor and expressions match his phrases, and we agreed in the intervening time to be associates with advantages.
Three months in the past, he met somebody a lot nearer to his age. However even in entrance of her he holds me shut and tells me he loves me. She has now slapped a hoop on his finger and is pushing him for marriage. He retains saying he’s not prepared.
We really feel that till the day he says “I do,” it’s OK for us to proceed our bed room enjoyable. I’m new to the courting world, and he’s my first since my husband handed. Am I doing the correct factor?
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DEAR LOVING: This can be very troublesome to hit a shifting goal. Nobody “slaps a hoop” on one other individual’s finger except that individual holds nonetheless for it.
You’re not doing the correct factor by persevering with to sleep with this man. Actually, you could be heading for a painful fall. When he marries his fiancee, you’ll be historical past as soon as she realizes you might be greater than good friend he “loves” but in addition a former mattress accomplice.
DEAR ABBY: Our household has an exciting story in its historical past about our grandfather and his brothers rescuing the household’s participant piano from their burning home.
The home burned to the bottom, and so they misplaced almost every part however the piano, which is now shuffled amongst members of the family’ houses.
It’s not significantly enticing, and it’s actually not playable whilst an everyday piano. It’s one of many low-cost, mass-produced, no-name fashions that have been fashionable within the Twenties. There are kinfolk who’re determined to maintain it within the household however who don’t have the house to retailer it or the cash to refurbish it.
I’m not sentimental. If it have been dumped on me, I’d throw it out. I informed them they need to take a number of images of it and eliminate it.
If some members of the family rescued a large TV set from a fireplace, it wouldn’t make sense to maintain it round for 100 years. I’m positive they loved the participant piano as a supply of leisure in its time, however that point has handed.
My query is, how do you get folks to let go of fabric possessions which have change into an enormous burden?
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DEAR UNFINISHED: You acknowledged that if somebody gave you that previous piano, you’d junk it. If somebody desires to provide it a house, that’s the place it ought to go. I’m having bother understanding why the destiny of that instrument is your downside.
Make it clear to your kinfolk that you really want nothing to do with that piece of furnishings and let it go.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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